Build Your Vision Series #3
What is the TOP mistake people make when building a new vision?
They set the bar too LOW. You heard me right. They set the bar too low.
It’s commonly known amongst coaches, that people overestimate what they can do in ONE year and underestimate what they can do in FIVE years.
Set your vision out around that 5-10 year range. That gives you freedom to make it BIGGER.
Then, you reverse engineer to figure out what you need to be doing THIS month, THIS quarter, THIS year to keep you on track for your vision.
Please understand, that life WILL intervene.
Things will happen that accelerate or change your direction. Things will bring you resources or strip resources away.
That is why when we deal with visions, we have to deal with the BIG picture and stay out of small stuff.
Don’t Accommodate Your FEARS In Your Vision
The biggest problem you have? Setting your bar too low and hitting it.
For a marriage, this problem takes on a particular twist that I want you to be aware of.
In marriage, we want our partner to help us meet our marriage goals.
Reasonable, right? But not something you can control!
Are you struggling in your marriage, having a hard time even IMAGINING a happy future together?
Watch out for limiting your Vision to what you think your husband “can-do“.
Don’t lower your expectations hoping just maybe he can REACH it.
Do. Not. Do. This.
I have been so guilty of doing this over the years.
You don’t even notice you’re doing it most of the time.
You just stop wanting or dreaming about anything that looks impossible for your mate to do.
Why? Why ask for something you “know” is IMPOSSIBLE for your mate to do?
Answer: Because otherwise you are making your happiness conditional upon ONLY what you can currently see or believe.
You do not want to limit your happiness to what you “think” you can get.(Same thing if your Vision is for a job, a purpose or destiny. Screw Impossible.) You do one thing the way you do everything and this will SPREAD to your whole life.
Still Too Hard to Imagine What You REALLY Want?
You can always ask yourself what emotion you expect to feel if you GOT that longshot. Then focus on asking for that FEELING in your New Vision.
P.S. You have to have a Vision sexy enough that it PULLS you forward. That it motivates you through challenges. Don’t go small. Err on the side of too big.
If you are scared, stuck or cannot find the big vision for your marriage (or life). Ask me. It’s what I do.
After her 2011 divorce, Tanya set out to learn WHY soo many marriages fail. She used what she learned to save her 2nd marriage and found her calling to Save YOURS too.
She is a 22-year Divorce Lawyer, Founder of a High-Conflict Divorce Firm, Author of ‘The Smart Guide to Life After Divorce’, Mensa Member, Advanced Clinically Certified in Hypnotherapy, Metaphysics PhD Candidate, Spiritual Teacher, Speaker & Life Coach.
Her coaching is recommended by the World-Famous Motivator, Les Brown, Best-Selling Love Coach Greg Baer and International Change Expert, Dr. Eldon Taylor.
Her greatest credential is finally separating Struggle from Success in Life & Marriage.
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