Build Your Vision Series: #2 How to Build a New Vision (for Anything!)


How to Build That New Vision

There are 3 Methods I’ve used and which one will be easiest for you depends on “where” you are right now…Ready?

Get Dirty Building Your Vision

  • Model & Modify – For My Alphas Who Like Templates
  • Suck & Spit – For Anyone Who is Feeling “Down” Right Now
  • Ask & Allow – For Those With More Spiritual Practice

Model & Modify

Go shopping for your vision! Look anywhere that makes you happy! A movie, online, podcasts, famous people’s biographies.  Start becoming aware of the Visions these folks had…and Model and Modify them. 

Take in the pieces you can see that you like, keep those bits and add whatever feels like it’s missing to make it “yours.”

It won’t be perfect but it’s: Fast, Easy and you can keep tweaking it as you go. 

Suck & Spit

(Are you laughing?) Suck in ALL the stuff that you DON’T like right now in your life. Write it all out. Get a big, long list. Literally, say one of the those annoying bits on an inhale. Then SPIT out the opposite! 

Yep. You can build your New Vision by “reversing” what you DON’T LIKE. 

If you depend on child support for your monthly bills, suck that in (because that DOES suck) and SPIT OUT being financially independent of those funds. 

Feeling overweight? Suck that in, Spit Out a visibly fit body as part of your New Vision.  Fighting too much? Suck that in, Spit Out a peaceful home.

Bonus: You can also play with SOLVING what sucks to create a new business venture.  How do you help women struggling on child support? What do they WANT that they’d pay for??  I personally solve the peaceful home problem. 

Ask & Allow 

Don’t judge yourself if this one is hard.  

Ask God (Source, Universe, Higher Self) for your New Vision so you can move in a better direction.  

Do something (anything at all) to signal your readiness to receive it!  

This is where rituals come from. Rituals are all about preparing the receiver to receive.   

You can take a walk. Take shower. Soak in a salt bath. Write your life on a piece of paper and rip that puppy up. Or just take a few deep breaths and expect an idea.  

Doesn’t matter. Just do SOMETHING that says, Send That Puppy!  

Allowing is to stay in a state of receiving long enough to get the whole message.  Alphas are soo darn impatient! You might get one idea 24 hours later or this might take a week.  

I asked for a miracle today and got an idea to take my Mother in Law to McDonald’s for breakfast. My miracle began unfolding THERE.  

Ask and Allow what comes knowing the message is being sent, you just have to learn to CATCH!

In Joy,

P.S. Do not let your inner “Perfectionist” out to play! Just start. Building any Vision will get you into motion and that will attract the “better” pieces. Just get STARTED. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain. 


After her 2011 divorce, Tanya set out to learn WHY soo many marriages fail. She used what she learned to save her 2nd marriage and found her calling to Save YOURS too.

She is a 22-year Divorce Lawyer, Founder of a High-Conflict Divorce Firm, Author of ‘The Smart Guide to Life After Divorce’, Mensa Member, Advanced Clinically Certified in Hypnotherapy, Metaphysics PhD Candidate, Spiritual Teacher, Speaker & Life Coach. 

Her coaching is recommended by the World-Famous Motivator, Les Brown, Best-Selling Love Coach Greg Baer and International Change Expert, Dr. Eldon Taylor. 

Her greatest credential is finally separating Struggle from Success in Life & Marriage.

Find Even More on the Resources page of the website: www.FearlessFocusCoaching.com/Resources


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