Can You Tell Yourself This Truth?
This is the threshold question for all the work you’ve done this month. If you cannot identify to yourself where your life isn’t working, it doesn’t MATTER how many tools you have to make it better.
This coaching post will just be the single question. Focused and powerful. Answer it to change your life…
Catch up on this month’s 4 Shortcuts to Happiness
Where Am I Unhappy?
Where are things missing? Where is your heart not in it? Where are you pressing down your feelings? Where are you waiting for X? Where are you miserable? Where are you coping? Where are you watching webinars and buying books?
Just name it out loud. I don’t like ______. I’m unhappy because _______ or I’m unhappy without _______.
Now…say it like 5 or 6 times. Say it til you can say it with confidence, clarity and without (big part) shame.
Just tell yourself the truth. It is very healing to face truth and to speak truth. It doesn’t have to be told to others, family or even me as your coach.
Speaking the truth about where you are happy vs. where you’d LIKE to be happy or SHOULD BE happy or USED TO BE happy or HOPE TO be happy soon, lets your inner child, who is suffering, feel heard.
She cannot ABIDE (vocab word of the day) seeing you rescue everyone else BUT HER! You are kind and sensitive and thoughtful and patient with everyone else BUT HER. Wherever she (“you” before this present moment) is unhappy, your ego puts up a block so you don’t see it.
What you don’t see, you don’t improve.
So for just a moment – SEE YOUR STUFF.
Tanya – What If I Can’t Fix “My Stuff”?
That’s okay honey. Start with seeing it. Validate that it’s there and that it hurts. Alphas suffer A LOT of invalidation from others, you must stop invalidating yourself first. It attracts more invalidation back to you.
Telling Yourself the Truth About Where You Are Hurting Without Knowing How to Fix It – Is Giving Yourself EMPATHY.
If you can love yourself enough to tell the truth about where you need help, please trust me that help will be dispatched. When you stop lying (sorry, self deception is lying) and enter validation (which is acceptance with love), your energy will shift. That shift will enable you to see what you previously didn’t, receive what you haven’t and attract resources you’ve previously repelled.
So very much depends on you answering the question truthfully, ‘Where Am I Unhappy?’ Do that NOW.
P.S.It is said lawyers don’t like to ask questions they don’t already know the answer too. Neither do Alphas! As I’m both, I had a double scoop of this. You need to be able to ask a question that will surface a problem you don’t already have a solution to. Calling a fear up to the surface is sometimes the exact act of bravery that creates your connection with your next right step. You can never peacefully & fully enjoy happiness in a few areas while ignoring the others. Let’s get your foundation solid. Need me? Ask.
Tanya Stewart is “The Alpha Woman Coach” and began coaching strong women as a Divorce lawyer in her own high conflict law firm 20 years ago. She understands how Alpha women are wired and using her Master’s level Metaphysics background and Advanced Clinical Certification in Hypnotherapy, she brings rapid change to people she works with. She is a speaker, published author and Mensa member whose coaching is recommended by the World-Famous Motivator, Les Brown, Best-Selling Love Coach Greg Baer and International Change Expert, Dr. Eldon Taylor. She can teach you to separate struggle from success. ALL My videos are always on my Vimeo channel HERE Find Even More on the Resources page of the website: www.FearlessFocusCoaching.com/Resources