[Relationships] The Power of Vulnerability – It Delivers Strength #1

Who Wants to Be Vulnerable? YOU!

Being vulnerable is the key to 4 things you WANT: 

  • Strength
  • Love
  • Weakness (Yep! I’ll explain later…)
  • Truth

Vulnerability is talked about a lot. Here’s what you need to know. It is not just a laudable character trait. It’s the KEY those 4 things you WANT.

Ready to embrace the scary? Brave Alpha, read on.

Catch up on last month’s The Priority Series – here. 

Strength Without Vulnerability Creates A BULLY

Alphas love, love, LOVE being strong and independent. So what telegraphs TRUE strength? Vulnerability.

Vulnerability – Alpha Life Coach Definition: The courage to tell your truth without trying to control the outcome of that truth.   

Remember, Alphas resort to control when stressed. It takes STRENGTH to not try to control an outcome, ESPECIALLY when you are pretty sure your truth won’t go over well.

When you are strong and you KNOW you can control the outcome of your choices, taking action isn’t all that impressive. You are risking nothing. In your fierce, Alpha woman warrior you have TRAINED yourself NOT to show vulnerability.

So you push and arrange and hold all your fears and doubts and aloneness inside. THAT is what bullies do. THAT is what dictators do. THAT shows imbalance and destroys relationships.  

Vulnerability lets those weaker than you feel safe with you. When you are Teflon coated and nothing sticks to you and no hurt, no mistake, no emotion is seen in you – PEOPLE DO NOT TRUST YOU. Subconsciously, you do not feel human and relatable. So even though strong and competent, your “softer” competitor will win. (I have lost things by appearing to perfect, to prepared, too smart with no weakness. Have you?)

Vulnerability – Alpha Life Coach Definition: The courage to tell your truth without trying to control the outcome of that truth.

Assignment: Show Vulnerability for Strength

Take a moment to find a situation where you have displayed too much Alpha. Too much confidence, reliability, take no prisoners, need-no-help Alpha.  Find one person to share a truth with. It should be a truth that is not comfortable for you.

Do not go tell your boss you are an alcoholic. We are not looking to get you fired. Don’t pick your scariest truth! We are looking to give you are framework for sharing your truths. You need a place to start. And you will NEED this skill for next week’s Lesson on Vulnerability & Love. 

Make sure one of your vulnerability admissions is to someone in your family. Children are a great place here. We are taught NOT to share our fears with our children. How then will they learn how to handle them? It paints a false picture of your strength, real life AND gives them a false model they will stress to reach.

There is Power in Vulnerability.

It is shown by those who have true STRENGTH.

In Joy,

Tanya Stewart (Signature)

P.S. Vulnerability is a muscle that you need to USE to get stronger at. Next week we’ll talk about vulnerability and love and how Alphas shoot themselves in the foot. 


Tanya Stewart is “The Alpha Woman Coach” and began coaching strong women as a Divorce lawyer in her own high conflict law firm 20 years ago. She understands how Alpha women are wired and using her Master’s level Metaphysics background and Advanced Clinical Certification in Hypnotherapy, she brings rapid change to people she works with. She is a speaker, published author and Mensa member whose coaching is recommended by the World-Famous Motivator, Les Brown, Best-Selling Love Coach Greg Baer and International Change Expert, Dr. Eldon Taylor. She can teach you to separate struggle from success. ALL My videos are always on my Vimeo channel HERE Find Even More on the Resources page of the website: www.FearlessFocusCoaching.com/Resources

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