High Achievers all have a good Relationship with the 4 R’s. The first R from last week was Responsibility.
The second R for this week is RISK.
A High Achiever Seeks Risk and Can Fail Publicly.
What? SEEK Risk? Yep.
What is Your Relationship with Failure?
Does it sound like an odd question? Good. You and I and everyone has a relationship with failure. The trick is you aren’t WORKING on that puppy.
Be fair. When a relationship is important to you, you know it needs time, attention and regular maintenance. Since you didn’t know before now that you had this relationship, I bet it’s been neglected.
Why do you want to look at and it and care for your relationship with failure? Simple. Failure. Is. Unavoidable.
If you are doing anything new, brave, noteworthy, the other sides of those coins include things not working out, blowing up spectacularly and visible failure. If you want one side, you have to know the other side is there and make peace with it.
High-wire artists are not revered so much for their balance, as they are for balancing when they can always FALL.
When you make peace with the chance to fail while focusing on succeeding, you cement your place as a high achiever.
It is common for Alphas to be MOST sensitive to public failure because we soo want the approval and praise of those around us. If you do not tackle and reduce that need, rest assured it will guide you away from the amazing chances you could take, if you weren’t afraid to fail and have people know it.
The relationship you want with failure is feedback. It is information on how you did something or the timing you had. When you can fail in public and not internalize that story to lower your self worth, you free yourself up to attempt things you dreamed of as a child.
Do I ALLOW Risk or SEEK Risk?
I bet you allow some risk in your life. Good. However, if you want to be great, we need you to SEEK RISK.
Just like Responsibility, you can avoid it, allow it or seek it out. High achievement requires you to look for it. No, that doesn’t mean you give up a secure investment for a tech startup in a war torn country. Seeking risk means you understand the correlation between risk and gain. You seek risk by seeking BIG gains.
Seek the 10X improvement, the big gain and when you find that opportunity or idea, flip the coin and look its bigger risks right in the eye and say – I’m not moving. I’ll figure you out.
Eiffel Tower. Golden Gate Bridge. Transcontinental Railroads. Someone went for it. And it was hard. Scary. “It always seems impossible until it’s done.” –Nelson Mandela
I don’t know what is IN you, but to bring it out, you will need to look for massive growth. Huge gains. And in that process tackle big risks. I find Alphas are gifted at seeking the opportunities and what holds you back is you haven’t gotten to a higher tolerance of risk.
Betting on yourself is a risk. Take it. If you keep finding you can’t. Hit reply and tell me about it. It’s what I do…
P.S. I have been doing risky things all YEAR! Expanding my business focus and my structures (I have one I am going to adjustagain).
That can look crazy or flaky. It’s a risk. I’ll take it. Why? Big gains baby. Those gains are called following my heart and intentionally only doing what brings me joy! That’s all that’s allowed. I want that 10X other side of the coin! Don’t you? Tell me about the last big risk you took. How did it go??
P.P.S. My Interview Goes Live Today in The Worthy Woman Interview Series…Get in here. Deanna, the host, just told me she re-watched us last night b/c she enjoyed it soo much! I love her.
Tanya Stewart is “The Alpha Woman Coach” and began coaching strong women as a Divorce lawyer in her own high conflict law firm 20 years ago. She understands how Alpha women are wired and using her Master’s level Metaphysics background and Advanced Clinical Certification in Hypnotherapy, she brings rapid change to people she works with.
She is a speaker, published author and Mensa member whose coaching is recommended by the World-Famous Motivator, Les Brown, Best-Selling Love Coach Greg Baer and International Change Expert, Dr. Eldon Taylor. She can teach you to separate struggle from success.