The 4 Relationship Traps #4
Instead of talking about the “surface“ take on the idea of us sabotaging our relationships, we’re going to go for the deep one!
The Surface One – we keep fighting with our mate, until our mate agrees that they were wrong and we were right.
Sometimes that takes 10 minutes, sometimes that fight can go on for years on the same subject!
It’s pretty obvious that that’s destructive and a lot of it just has to do with the habit of being right and “winning“.
The DEEP SABOTAGE-
The deep part of sabotage is there’s a part of you that doesn’t believe that you deserve to be happy and loved. A bit that doesn’t think love is safe or that you’re WORTHY of a good mate.
Those hidden, core beliefs are what work to attract the exact type of man that makes your dark beliefs true – a nightmare self-fulfilling prophecy!
In other words, we sabotage ourselves by making our deep, hidden beliefs RIGHT.
The only way to determine if you are doing this is to look at the patterns of your life. If you keep having the same relationship with a guy and the only thing that’s changing is his NAME and AGE – you are in a sabotage relationship pattern.
If you spot this, do not freak out! (OK, go ahead and freak out a bit because it IS terrible.)
Your Sabotage Pattern is SNEAKY
I can help you fix it.
And my main teaching is You Do One Thing The Way You Do Everything.
So, if you’ve got the sabotage pattern going on in your relationships (which you probably do…)
You’ll have sabotage patterns going on with your work (what happened to that promotion??), with your business (why are your employees always crazy??), with your family (who’s turn is it to be rescued THIS month??).
The very first step you can take is to recognize that you have the sabotage patterns, so you become more consciously aware of when you are doing them.
Ask me for help if your pattern scares you.
P.S. ASR stands not only for The Art of Self Rescue, but also for Alphas Struggle in Relationships and Alphas Sabotage Relationships. This is a real thing.
Are you ready to get some “in your face” relationship TRUTHS ? Listen to me telling the whole truth and nothing but tomorrow! Be quick and make sure you GET MY INTERVIEW in the Brave New Life online summit – mine comes out Thursday, October 22.
After her 2011 divorce, Tanya set out to learn WHY soo many marriages fail. She used what she learned to save her 2nd marriage and found her calling to Save YOURS too.
She is a 22-year Divorce Lawyer, Founder of a High-Conflict Divorce Firm, Author of ‘The Smart Guide to Life After Divorce’, Mensa Member, Advanced Clinically Certified in Hypnotherapy, Metaphysics PhD Candidate, Spiritual Teacher, Speaker & Life Coach.
Her coaching is recommended by the World-Famous Motivator, Les Brown, Best-Selling Love Coach Greg Baer and International Change Expert, Dr. Eldon Taylor.
Her greatest credential is finally separating Struggle from Success in Life & Marriage.
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