This week we will be talking about a disease that kills more people than anything else, I would be willing to including cancer. All cancers.
What is it? STUBBORNESS.
Catch up for August Here – The Double Edged Sword #4 – Too Independent
Everybody knows someone who is stubborn or God help you, maybe it’s you!
What’s really funny, is when people openly ADMIT they’re stubborn! As if this is not a terrible thing to be. It should be looked at like admitting you are a liar or a thief.
Here’s what stubborn really means: you would rather be right than happy, loved, healthy or wealthy.
Stubborn people will take and keep their own counsel, even when there is someone with experience to know better, willing to advise them. Like Frank Sintra, you insist that you have to do it YOUR WAY.
If you’re overweight, you’re stubborn. You know what you need to do and you won’t do it. If you don’t have enough money, you’re stubborn.There’s about 1000 different ways for you to improve your financial situation but you are not executing on them.
Note: before your head tries to get involved in any excuses and defenses around this, I did NOT say that those thousand ways were EASY. I did NOT say they were COMFORTABLE. I did NOT say they don’t involve big effort, investment and even downright pain.
The same thing holds true with getting your health in order. In fact, here is a truth about the process to get ANYTHING in order: Anything that’s out of order will require the application of extra energy to the chaos to straighten it out.
Stubborn people won’t put in the extra and won’t accept guidance to improve their process.
You Will Need to “FORGE” Something New
And although it’s fallen out of use, people formerly used the word “Forge” not just for metal, but in reference to “forging” someone’s personality and character.
You probably never tried to be a blacksmith, hammer metal or forge steel. (It’s FUN!) But you get the idea. When something is crooked and we want it straight, there’s a lot of freaking hammering, heat and sweat.
If your health, wealth, love or mission are crooked and you want it straightened…be prepared to apply some heat, some hammering and some sweat.
Stubborn folks do a little, see no results and declare all FUTURE, similar efforts futile. Then they proceed to make themselves right.
When you’re done being stubborn (and right), you can forge something new out of the soft metal of your life. When you’re ready for that, hit reply and contact me.
P.S I hope you examined the 4 traits of an Alpha this month! Your Planner, Analyzer, Crisis Manager & Strong Independence are sharp tools that often cut you. Make sure you’ve done the work to see where you need improvement. Learn about your 4 Double Edged Sword Traits here.
If you are in US and coming up on a 3-day holiday weekend, make time for reflection. Do not keep your foot on the gas in life, thinking everything will sort itself out. It won’t. You have to step back and see where you are and remind yourself where you want to go.
Assume you are stubborn and ask yourself where is my stubbornness MOST hurting me right now? Let me know…
Tanya Stewart is “The Alpha Woman Coach” and began coaching strong women as a Divorce lawyer in her own high conflict law firm 20 years ago. She understands how Alpha women are wired and using her Master’s level Metaphysics background and Advanced Clinical Certification in Hypnotherapy, she brings rapid change to people she works with.
She is a speaker, published author and Mensa member whose coaching is recommended by the World-Famous Motivator, Les Brown, Best-Selling Love Coach Greg Baer and International Change Expert, Dr. Eldon Taylor. She can teach you to separate struggle from success.
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