Give Me My DRUG! (Approval)
Has everyone hung in there to learn the 4 A’s all Alphas want from their men? Attention, Appreciation, Affection and Approval!
Giving the 4 A’s regularly makes an Alpha feel loved.
Are you making her?
ASK for your Attention,
REMIND for Appreciation,
WAIT for Affection or
EARN your Approval.
Stop It. Here’s a hint. That’s what her FAMILY did to her. That’s what the WORLD does to her. That’s what her (she thinks of them as) “friends” do.
Approval is the big one on the list because it counts for MORE than the others. We really, really want our mates to APPROVE OF US.
#4 Give Approval Without EARNING It
Follow me because this is going to be super helpful to some of you…
An Alpha woman is in a masculine state. It’s a state of doing and providing, giving and controlling, THINKING and ANALYZING.
What we really, really (pretty please with a cherry on top) want is for you to ASK for our Ideas! Opinions! And if I fantasize, PLANS!
Ask us HOW we are going to do something, WHAT we are going to do and then BLESS IT.
Here is a secret trick. Ready guys? (You OWE me for this one…)
It doesn’t matter WHAT the plan is about or for! I can be her plan to get the kids’ school shoes for less. It could be her thoughts on why the government isn’t working. It could be her idea for making more space in the GARAGE.
Just ask, listen and approve.
Now, what if you don’t agree? Ask your Alpha questions, make her “defend” her plan and then agree that she’s thought it through and it COULD work.
You don’t have to approve of how she’s disciplining the kids if that is your current fight. You don’t need to approve of who she’s voting for if that’s a sore spot.
You don’t need to approve of the money she just spent hiring me to coach her and save your marriage (okay…THAT one you should!).
You get the picture. ANY APPROVAL WILL DO.
I think I fell in love with my husband while we were dreaming and plotting our joint entrepreneurial empires! He wanted to let me play. He liked my ideas. He respected my opinion. Boom. Approval!
Yes, men, that is what YOU want from her and struggle to get – RESPECT. Oddly enough, your woman wants it from you too.
We feel fragile inside. Like imposters and we need constant and continual streams of approval, which we have to “pay” other people to get (using our Alpha crisis manager/rescuer/fix any damn-thing skills).
One of my best trainings is here: Approval is Our DRUG
Masculine Energy ALWAYS Wants Respect.
That’s What Approval Is.
– Tanya Dyer, Esq.
P.S. Unearned approval is LOVE. Give her the forms of love that SHE wants and she’ll give you more of you want too. If not, write me and I’ll yell at her (it’s what I do! I turn defensive, controlling, stubborn women into loving, balanced, happy, sexy, money making creatures like me 🙂 Ask me to help.
After her 2011 divorce, Tanya set out to learn WHY soo many marriages fail. She used what she learned to save her 2nd marriage and found her calling to Save YOURS too.
She is a 22-year Divorce Lawyer, Founder of a High-Conflict Divorce Firm, Author of ‘The Smart Guide to Life After Divorce’, Mensa Member, Advanced Clinically Certified in Hypnotherapy, Metaphysics PhD Candidate, Spiritual Teacher, Speaker & Life Coach.
Her coaching is recommended by the World-Famous Motivator, Les Brown, Best-Selling Love Coach Greg Baer and International Change Expert, Dr. Eldon Taylor.
Her greatest credential is finally separating Struggle from Success in Life & Marriage.
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