Don’t Make Me WAIT For It!
Men you are being awesome in letting me teach you.
There’s two ways to look at this series: a list of things you do WRONG or ways you can make your life (& Wife!) work better. I hope you are focusing on the latter.
Give me AFFECTION steadily.
There shouldn’t need to be a reason to show affection to me. Yes, I know you’ll show up with affection on the big 5: Christmas, Valentine’s Day, Mother’s Day, My Birthday and Our Anniversary.
It’s the OTHER days when I need it.
I once read that it shouldn’t matter if your husband forgets your birthday. Here’s the truth: If you wife is completely secured in your love (which cannot be done by you telling her once per holiday), you could “mess up” as huge as that and it be no big deal.
The question is, are you looking for an “event” to trigger your affection?
A holiday. Tears. Illness. If so…Stop It.
Don’t make your Alpha Woman wait for affection from you.
#3 Give Affection Without Waiting
How do you do this?
Slap us on the butt. Wink at us. Quick hug for no reason. Notice our underwear. Reach out and stroke our hair or leg on the couch.
Want to know the BIG ONES????
>>>Place a soft kiss on our forehead or top of our head.
Don’t even need WORDS with that one it’s soo good.
>>>Hug us from behind please!
Three flavors on this one – The Cherishing, which is a slow tug and caressing hold, The Cutie and The Claiming (yes, I made those names up but they WORK don’t they?!).
The Cutie – tickle me! Pull me into a hug and give me a tickle or quick squeeze. This one is light and funny.
The Claiming – grab me and PULL me into your arms, your chest to my back. Hold me TIGHT.
You may not realize the reason that last one works because men are left out of the loop on young babies (unfairly I think). Babies need to be held TIGHTLY or “swaddled” to feel safe and secure.
If a baby is in distress, you wrap their blanket around them in a little cocoon of love. Your woman still needs and responds to that!
Hug us HARD. FIERCELY.
Again, do this well and you don’t even need words. If you do add words, go with “I don’t say enough, but thank you for sticking with me” or “I need you”. And yes, “I love you” & “You smell good” works awesome too.
Alphas, make sure you are circulating these trainings, so they get into the hands of other Alphas and men, when we are talking directly to them.
P.S. Even if you cannot educate YOUR OWN man, gift another woman by helping HERS when you can.
I’ve sent secret encouragements to my brother-in-law when he does REALLY well showing affection and love to my sister. He’s learning to open up and pour love on her! Hallmark Movie here we come!
She did it. I was overjoyed and I immediately sent a picture to my husband who did not gush the appreciation I would’ve loved.
My desire fell into the ego category. I caught myself about to REMIND him and laughed and stopped. My girlfriends and I will meet this need better!
After her 2011 divorce, Tanya set out to learn WHY soo many marriages fail. She used what she learned to save her 2nd marriage and found her calling to Save YOURS too.
She is a 22-year Divorce Lawyer, Founder of a High-Conflict Divorce Firm, Author of ‘The Smart Guide to Life After Divorce’, Mensa Member, Advanced Clinically Certified in Hypnotherapy, Metaphysics PhD Candidate, Spiritual Teacher, Speaker & Life Coach.
Her coaching is recommended by the World-Famous Motivator, Les Brown, Best-Selling Love Coach Greg Baer and International Change Expert, Dr. Eldon Taylor.
Her greatest credential is finally separating Struggle from Success in Life & Marriage.
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