We are wrapping up February’s focus on Resistance and how it TEACHES you things you want to know.
This month we learned how Resistance Tells You:
You Picked the WRONG THING!
You Are Going The WRONG WAY!
You Aren’t Committed!
Our final coaching today is how resistance tells you that you have a BAD PATTERN that needs shifting.
Not Getting What You Want? Bet a BAD PATTERN Is Blocking You
Everybody has them. Call it a bad habit or bad pattern – either way you have a bundle of thoughts and beliefs that you’ve cemented into your lifefrom past experience.
Not all patterns are bad, but you WANT to spot the ones that are blocking you, because they do it ALL the time!
Think of Resistance as FRICTION. It’s that spot that rubs. It’s where your new dress shoes are just gonna give you a blister.
If you look at the ways you get stuck on big things over the past 10 years, you’ll spot a pattern. And yep, it’ll be a bad pattern.
Instead of being frustrated, ask yourself what is the “friction” that is common? Look for the familiar signs of resistance: Starting late. Overeating. Negative self-talk. Rescuing others (instead of you!). Over-analyzing.
Commit (yep, we Answered “Am I Really Committed?” last week!) to finding the ONE BIGGEST point of friction that pops up all the time as your bad pattern.
And…solve it. Fix it. Soften it. Bribe yourself. Do what needs to be done to prevent that from rearing its head on your next big thing.
The reason that bad patterns are one of your biggest enemies is that once something gets to the HABIT level, you stop noticing it anymore. Do you notice where you drop your purse when you walk in the door? NO. Because that is where it always goes.
Just taking the time to look for the bad patterns and making any sustained effort to head it off will help you.
Now. To change a habit takes time. No one agrees how MUCH time by they way. Folk wisdom was 21 days, lots of folks with degrees say 66 to 70 days. End result? You cannot just do this once and succeed.
That is the value of coach or group to support you by the way. You often need something “else” to keep you focused and grinding through that change period. (Get Alpha Group Coaching Brochure pdf here.)
You are not broken, you are not unworthy, you are LAZY. You have a bad pattern that needs breaking. You can do that. Hit reply if you want help.
P.S. I’m in Frisco (Dallas) Texas! Visiting my Dad and StepMom 🙂
Our video on Breaking Bad Patterns is going to be awesome and on the road.
P.P.S. Last Week’s Commitment & Resistance Video – Are You Committed?
Tanya Stewart is “The Alpha Woman Coach” and began coaching strong women as a Divorce lawyer in her own high conflict law firm 20 years ago. She understands how Alpha women are wired and using her Master’s level Metaphysics background and Advanced Clinical Certification in Hypnotherapy, she brings rapid change to people she works with.
She is a speaker, published author and Mensa member whose coaching is recommended by the World-Famous Motivator, Les Brown, Best-Selling Love Coach Greg Baer and International Change Expert, Dr. Eldon Taylor. She can teach you to separate struggle from success.