I’ve declared March’s focus as High Achievers Month. These are the Alphas that want MORE in every area of your life and are willing to do what’s necessary to get it.
High Achievers all have a good Relationship with the 4 R’s.
The first R for this week is RESPONSIBILITY.
A High Achiever owns outcomes and takes blame.
Let’s take look behind those skills…
What is Your Relationship with Your Outcomes?
Do you own the outcome, regardless of whether it’s good or bad? Can you take responsibility for things that don’t work, EVEN THOUGH YOU DID YOUR PART?
That’s a tricky one. Many Alphas can stand still and take the heat when YOU screwed up. But how are you at doing that when someone around you or under you screws up?
High achievement says I am responsible for generating the outcome and the rain, your secretary’s flu and the economy do not justify not delivering. When you hold YOURSELF to this standard, you will find others more amenable to you holding THEM to this standard. It’s you first though!
When you know that there are no excuses, you awaken your creativity in resolving challenges. This is why need (necessity) is the mother of invention.
You can accept blame, if it comes, not because it feels good (it doesn’t) but because it MOTIVATES you to find a way to make sure you are never in that position again.
You can accept blame because when your staff sees your head on the block for their error, the valuable person who made a mistake will also be motivated to make sure that doesn’t happen again.
Self-Trust, Trust and Respect of others, a feeling of security in your people and motivation to avoid personal failure. The Responsible are confident and given control which is precedent of the POWER of choice.
Do I SEEK Responsibility?
If you want to achieve anything of significance you must be able to answer this question with a resounding YES.
Look back, did you SEEK it or merely accept it if it was offered or required? There is a difference. You can excel by accepting it, but to really blow the roof off things, you need to be in the energy that says “How can I serve MORE than I am right now?”
We are paid in relationship to our levels of responsibility. This is why housecleaning will never pay as well as performing life threatening surgery. That brings us to our 2nd R, which is next week! Stay tuned.
If you need what I teach, let me know. Don’t miss out on Alpha Group coaching, starting soon. If you really knew how much MORE is possible for you, you would take Responsibility and make it happen now.
P.S. I’m back from Texas where I had a great time with my dad and stepmom! We all went to the gym, cooked and I organized their garage, built shelves, built an IKEA bed for the guest room (that is a SERIOUS act of love) and decorated it.
Bought the bed & mattress during my visit 4 months ago and I took RESPONSIBILITY for building it vs. trying to get others to do it. So I flew back to Texas & got it done.
P.P.S. Keep your eyes open on Friday, I’ll invite you to The Worthy Woman Interview Series I’m in! Just like it sounds. Check it out.
Tanya Stewart is “The Alpha Woman Coach” and began coaching strong women as a Divorce lawyer in her own high conflict law firm 20 years ago. She understands how Alpha women are wired and using her Master’s level Metaphysics background and Advanced Clinical Certification in Hypnotherapy, she brings rapid change to people she works with.
She is a speaker, published author and Mensa member whose coaching is recommended by the World-Famous Motivator, Les Brown, Best-Selling Love Coach Greg Baer and International Change Expert, Dr. Eldon Taylor. She can teach you to separate struggle from success.