There are 4 BIG DREAMS that you were taught to chase directly that never work out energetically and spiritually.
Those goals are Money, Love, Weight Loss and Success.
Let talk about losing weight! A biggie (pun intended!)
You will not lose weight if you do not love yourself. You can do it temporarily – but again weight loss is a byproduct of self worth and self love.
Most people think that they will love themselves after they lose 30 pounds.
You will never successfully lose 30 pounds if you do not first love yourself WITH the extra 30 pounds.
Like Money, (Read Bad Goal #1: Money) weight loss is a byproduct goal.
I am an Indirect Goals Coach, so I teach you not to go directly toward your goals because I KNOW that it does not work well for you.
You don’t need to test this theory too far – just look back at your life. Has “I’m gonna lose X pounds” worked?
And by worked, I mean worked consistently, without herculean amounts of struggle and the weight stayed off.
A good goal, if you really want to lose weight, is to BECOME HEALTHY.
Healthy has a lot of other pieces to it that all need to be put in place. When you do that work, the result is the predictable byproduct of weight loss.
Read about Food & Love Here – [Self-Love] Food is Love…
Most often, you are trying to lose weight to BUY love, either your own or someone else’s. You think the thinner you get the MORE you get – affection, attention, enjoyment and safety.
Unfortunately, the Universe has TWO problems with this plan: 1) It doesn’t want you to GET more it wants you to BE more and 2) it CANNOT PERMIT you to try to ‘buy’ love externally. It’s an internal job. So, it thwarts you.
Remember – Love is Bad Goal #2!
When your goal is health, as in, I want to take better care of me because I LIKE me, your weight can come off and stay off.
Here’s the annoying truth, when you do this in the right order, almost ANYTHING will help you lose weight. When you do it in the wrong order, Primary Goal: Weight Loss, almost NOTHING will help you lose weight.
My coach (coaches have coaches!) was telling me that Weight = Wait. Yep! When you are carrying weight, you are delaying something good from arriving.
Do you need help with this? Hit reply and ask me.
P.S. STOP trying to lose weight! And work on liking yourself and taking better care of yourself as a WHOLE vs. How do I flatten my stomach??
Last week’s Bad Goal was LOVE! Watch the Bad Goal: Love Video here
I’ll be on FB Live (Tanya Stewart Esq) at 11 am EST talking about Bad Goal: Weight Loss THIS Friday! Hit reply and send your questions. I’ll answer you.
Tanya Stewart is “The Alpha Woman Coach” and began coaching strong women as a Divorce lawyer in her own high conflict law firm 20 years ago. She understands how Alpha women are wired and using her Master’s level Metaphysics background and Advanced Clinical Certification in Hypnotherapy, she brings rapid change from within. She is a speaker, published author and Mensa member whose coaching is recommended by the World-Famous Motivator, Les Brown, Best-Selling Love Coach Greg Baer and International Change Expert, Dr. Eldon Taylor. Her greatest credential is deep, daily joy, having finally separated struggle from success.