Welcome to your February Coaching Posts! This month we are going to learn to look at RESISTANCE in a different (and more useful!) way.
When you set out to do something, especially something NEW, you run into your own resistance. Resistance energy makes you do all kinds of things that BLOCK your goal. You avoid, delay, overwork, overanalyze, spin, distract and overwhelm to name a few.
Here’s the GOOD NEWS! Resistance is giving you information and this month we’ll learn how Resistance Tells You:
- You Picked the WRONG THING!
- You Are Going the WRONG WAY!
- You Aren’t COMMITTED!
- You Have a BAD PATTERN to Shift!
You need to know what YOUR resistance is trying to tell you so you can have what you REALLY want in your life.
Resistance Could Be Telling You…You Picked the WRONG THING!
You sat down to write that book about 17 times. Well, you thought about sitting down 17x. You actually made it the chair about 3. RESISTANCE!
You may have decided this is THE year to go back to the gym. Ok. It’s February and are you still going your 3x a week? No? RESISTANCE!
You need to handle that co-worker. THIS time you are just going to lay it on the line and get them off of your projects. Except, that you keep NOT starting the conversation. Yep. You guessed it. RESISTANCE!
Sometimes you don’t want to do something because it is the WRONG thing to do. In these cases only your mind has approved the action. It’s makes sense logically.
The hallmark of Wrong Thing Resistance is your head has given this wrong thing a full stamp of approval, and it is hurrying you to GET ON WITH IT.
Your head is trying to rush you into action before your HEART can object. Your head will use GUILT as a motivator. But when you check a Wrong Thing with your heart, it won’t feel right or good. You’ll hear yourself TALKING YOURSELF INTO IT.
If you are doing something that you have to keep talking yourself into – hit pause and ask yourself if what you are doing is logical but still the wrong thing for you?
Alphas tend to be pretty disconnected from feeling with our hearts, we stay in our heads ALL day. But if you get calm, take 3-5 deep breaths and put your hand ON your heart and ask “Is this the right thing for me right now?” You’ll feel something say NO, if you are not afraid of being made “wrong.”
Here is an example we all have. Think back to a love affair that was a mess and you KNEW better. You talked yourself into starting it or into staying. And it was an EPIC WRONG THING. Think back, there were times when you felt resistance to staying and keeping up the crazy and you beat that helpful resistance to death and stayed anyway!
There are some things that you should end or leave without finishing.
(Read Don’t Finish Bad Cookies)
Sometimes the urge to procrastinate is your FRIEND and it is trying to get you to see you picked the WRONG THING.
Yes, it can be hard to tell. Follow our series this month and reach out and ask me for help…
P.S. Look for a special email this Friday where I invite you to work with me – either in an 8 wk Online Class, 2 levels of Group coaching or 1 on 1.
There will be something for all wallets and the investment will be listed in the email, no guessing or asking!
I’m excited. We have a lot to do this year and I’m ready to get you where you want to be.
P.P.S. 100% of the 2017 Alpha Group Coaching class got MASSIVE growth in money, health, marriages, jobs, confidence, self-worth, self-confidence AND trust.
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Tanya Stewart is “The Alpha Woman Coach” and began coaching strong women as a Divorce lawyer in her own high conflict law firm 20 years ago. She understands how Alpha women are wired and using her Master’s level Metaphysics background and Advanced Clinical Certification in Hypnotherapy, she brings rapid change from within. She is a speaker, published author and Mensa member whose coaching is recommended by the World-Famous Motivator, Les Brown, Best-Selling Love Coach Greg Baer and International Change Expert, Dr. Eldon Taylor. Her greatest credential is deep, daily joy, having finally separated struggle from success.