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[Alphas] Ask & You Shall Feel RELIEVED… Surrender #3

Ask & You Shall Feel RELIEVED…​​​​​​​


In learning how to Surrender this month, we’ve talked about Preparing to Receive and Choosing to Allow.


Now for some sexy stuff! Confidently Asking is the last leg of surrender.


Short version:

You are Confidently Asking when you feel relief WHILE asking for the help, because your expectation of aid has no doubts. You are not waiting until help is received to relax. 


Hint: Some well studied sage suggested “Pray believing you have it”. And in his language, the word “prayer” translated similar to the word COMMAND.


Claim or Command Your Help Confidently


To get a better handle on claiming -I’m going to ask you a series of questions.


  • How often do you claim victory, when you don’t know how to make it happen?


Most Alphas will only claim success or feel good (i.e. in control) when they are,in fact, in control! If they don’t know HOW an end is to be obtained, they do not feel optimistic or happy about it.


This is the exact opposite of surrender. In surrender you are not the only one on your side, so you can foresee good outcomes beyond your resources.


  • How often do you use (claim) your ability to ask for help, without procrastination or worry?


Confidently asking for help is a skill set you want to practice. If you find yourself only asking after much procrastination and worry, you aren’t surrendering.


Confident asking doesn’t not wait until you bottom out. It’s also NOT confident asking to ask but still “keep the problem active in your head”. Remember Stopping.


  • How often do you claim peace in the middle of your struggles?


When you ask for help, if you believe you’ll really receive it, you’ll feel peace right when you ASK- not after the help is given.


Think back to see if you felt peaceful AS you asked for help or if you only felt peaceful once you could CONFIRM the result.


When your Alpha (your leader) is healthy, they WANT you to ask with a comfortable sense of confidence.


Don’t you love it when a friend brings you her worry with, “I just know you’ll know what to say to help me feel better.”  That confidence is really a blessing to the Alpha receiving it.


Expectations Should Follow Claiming or Commanding


When we talk about expectations, the biggest thing I see, is that it is confused with hope. I’ve previously discussed that hope is a four letter word.


Hope is a problem because Hope has doubt in it. Doubt is fear. That is energy going the wrong way!


Expectations are very powerful, because expectations have positive anticipation backed with certainty.


Am I telling you that you should be able to rely 100% on everything someone tells you or promises you? Of course not. But if the other person is your Alpha, they have the ability to lead you in the motivation to protect you.


When your alpha says something will be so, you expect it.


Now to pull off a biblical hat trick (I’m fairly certain that combination of words has never been used in history! A hat trick is a slang for pulling off three of something, usually three goals in a hockey game).


In a few places, the Bible references becoming like a little child will get you everything you want.  That’s really about expectation and faith without doubt.


If you told hey child you know that you were taking them to Disney World next week, if you were their Alpha, they would believe you. They would expect to go.


Surrender needs that level of expectation of security and kept promises. When you have that, the Universe’s rules for Expectation kick in.


Surrender done right is NOT for the meek. It is valiant and beautiful and well rewarded.


Surrender done right is NOT for the meek. It is valiant and beautiful and well rewarded.


Next week we’ll summarize the 3 Alpha Life Cycles: Fight, Control & Surrender.


In Joy,



P.S  I have told clients over the years to contact me if they have an emergency. Some will, many won’t. Why not? Those that don’t, do not know how to confidently ask yet. When I gave them this promise, they doubt they can really claim it. They keep their problem to themselves until it’s a forest fire nearly out of control. 


Hit reply and share with me if you’ve kept your “Get Out of Jail Free” cards instead of USING them when needed.

Tanya Stewart is “The Alpha Woman Coach” and began coaching strong women as a Divorce lawyer in her own high conflict law firm 20 years ago. She understands how Alpha women are wired and using her Master’s level Metaphysics background and Advanced Clinical Certification in Hypnotherapy, she brings rapid change to people she works with. 


She is a speaker, published author and Mensa member whose coaching is recommended by the World-Famous Motivator, Les Brown, Best-Selling Love Coach Greg Baer and International Change Expert, Dr. Eldon Taylor. She can teach you to separate struggle from success. 


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