Happy Hides in Habits!
You don’t get to dance over the rainbow by something you do every ONCE in awhile. You’ve seen enough ultra/mega success stories to know that those folks all describe changing something they did DAILY.
Habits! Let’s change something you are doing all the time 🙂
Want the Easy Way?
Habits are about what you do with your body all the time. I completely guarantee there is something you are doing with your body almost DAILY that is helping you be UNHAPPY.
Stop It. Just stop doing that.
Hmm. Need more clarity?
Look for one thing you do that is either NOT helping or actively making things worse. Example for me? I need to stop leaving the cookie package on the counter. They are in plain sight and just a bit TOO accessible.
See how the habit of leaving treats out on the counter I pass a million times is NOT helping? When I cleaned my kitchen cabinets, I dedicated a treat shelf just so I can close a door on them. These cookies need to join their friends!
Look for a habit (action you do with your body without noticing it) that you can stop. Eating less sugar is a long term happy thing for me.
Adding In A New Action Is A Bit Harder
I recommend you earnestly try to exhaust options to INTERRUPT habits before you hop on the “Let’s Do Something New” Plan. Why? Because we suck at new. Humans are not wired for new. Our brains love safe, known patterns. We are designed to conserve energy and “new” almost always requires more effort than old.
Before you decide to add a new habit to feel happier, you MUST sit and truthfully face ALL the parts of you that DO NOT WANT what you say you want.
That was so important, let me go at that puppy again.
Never, in the History of Ever, has ALL of you wanted some change 100%. Your conscious mind is usually the one doing the “wanting” for it’s own good reasons. And your subconscious mind is usually the one that is appalled and finds whatever you are up to UNNECESSARY and UNWANTED.
Let’s take the habit of just drinking one more glass of water a day. Pretty much everyone can agree that’s a smart move right? Nope!
The part of you that wants a Coke Zero does not agree. The part of you that is finally comfortable on the couch does not agree. The part of you that is always thinking about the next 12 things you are juggling doesn’t have time to stop and remember a silly glass of water.
Weight loss? I promise you a large part of you (your not so silent partner) doesn’t want to lose weight. Who wants to go to the gym? Pay for the gym? Feel fat at the gym? Go for 8 months before you’ll start looking good? Buy new clothes? Lose old favorites? Not eat cookies on the counter? Deal with men bothering you? Or no longer have a “protection” from getting into a romance or bed with your partner?
So yes, you can CHANGE WHAT YOU ARE DOING to find greater happiness. Do the foundation work. I’m a Foundations Coach and I promise this is the biggest reason people fail anything. They are unwilling to acknowledge the parts of themselves that are NOT on board and will sabotage your plan.
Sorry (not sorry) for the chunk of truth! It will help you Alpha.
Advice: This is the reason your “WHY” you are changing something, is almost more important than the “what” you are changing. You must know it, love it and be prepared to repel all borders from your new habit. Also why military style boot camps can work really well. They leave no room to reconsider or back up.
If you really want to change something to add to your happiness – Burn Your Bridges to do it.
Want More Happiness? Change What You Keep DOING
P.S. I love that in order to provide you a solid example (my “counter cookie” habit), I did the work I’m telling YOU to do and noticed something I can easily change! I teach what is doable and what I do. What works. And not what is comfortable. Your happiness meter should never be out of YOUR own hands. Others can add but be very wary if you’ve given away the ability to “make you” unhappy when you don’t want to be.
Tanya Stewart is “The Alpha Woman Coach” and began coaching strong women as a Divorce lawyer in her own high conflict law firm 20 years ago. She understands how Alpha women are wired and using her Master’s level Metaphysics background and Advanced Clinical Certification in Hypnotherapy, she brings rapid change to people she works with. She is a speaker, published author and Mensa member whose coaching is recommended by the World-Famous Motivator, Les Brown, Best-Selling Love Coach Greg Baer and International Change Expert, Dr. Eldon Taylor. She can teach you to separate struggle from success. ALL My videos are always on my Vimeo channel HERE Find Even More on the Resources page of the website: www.FearlessFocusCoaching.com/Resources