Make Some Room IF You Want Someone to Move Forward
We are soo eager! When we want something we are like the little kid in the back seat, leaning so far forward, we can’t keep a seat belt on.
If you want someone or something to come towards you, make SPACE for it…
Why Does “Leaning Back” Get You Want You Want?
Nature (and People) Abhor a Vaccum
We are all inspired to fill EMPTY spaces. We fill them in conversations. We fill them once we move into our new place. We fill them in our new purses and pantries.
You want to harness a person’s natural desire to step in and fill up a space, a role or a need LEFT VACANT.
That means…drumroll…you gotta create a VACANCY. Stop Over-Alpha-ing every darn thing! It’s not sexy.
You’ve read enough marketing to recognize this phrasing…”I’ve got an opening for 3 more people…” or “only 2 tickets remain”. That is a combination of scarcity and limited space to create demand.
Is there room for me?
At some point you remember asking that question and squeezing into an already crowded car or elevator. And then what? You couldn’t WAIT for the ride to be over!
If you want someone to come towards you in business (or romantically) there needs to be a clear SPACE for them. They are invited into an open area, that they feel excited to try to fill.
Leaning Back, Brings them IN. Make space for whatever you are inviting into your world. Select the space and PROTECT it until the rightfully designated owner of the space arrives.
For business, that means don’t take crappy clients so you are “full” and have no room for the dream one. In love that means, don’t take on crappy, rescue relationships, so you are “too busy” and have no room for a good mate.
Lean back Alpha.
P.S. Compare my photo below with the one above. See difference in the energy and body language? I have different approaches – some require my “leaned forward, confident AF” energy and some require a “leaned back, let’s get you over here and help you” energy. As I shift my business focus in the near future, my brand images will change to support the energy of confident invitation.
Tanya Stewart is “The Alpha Woman Coach” and began coaching strong women as a Divorce lawyer in her own high conflict law firm 20 years ago. She understands how Alpha women are wired and using her Master’s level Metaphysics background and Advanced Clinical Certification in Hypnotherapy, she brings rapid change to people she works with.
She is a speaker, published author and Mensa member whose coaching is recommended by the World-Famous Motivator, Les Brown, Best-Selling Love Coach Greg Baer and International Change Expert, Dr. Eldon Taylor. She can teach you to separate struggle from success.